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Global Summit to End Sexual Violence in Conflict

William Hague and Angelina Jolie 2

William Hague has expressed his opinion that all men should feel guilty about the phenomenon of war rape. It reminded me that I wrote a blog piece on my older redpilluk site in June 2014 on the Global Summit to End Sexual Violence in Conflict, featuring William Hague. Since the issue is topical again I reproduce the piece below. There are two reasons why I decline William Hague’s invitation to feel guilt. The first – and I suspect you may think this is a pathetic excuse – is that I am not guilty. Apparently I am being asked to believe that guilt is contagious via some sort of morphic resonance of the gonads. But only for crimes against women. I don’t think William Hague is expecting me to share in the guilt of male burglars or male fraudsters. Odd that. Poor William Hague, like all white knights, he is the victim of internalised misandry. The second reason is that the presumption that “sexual violence in conflict” means exclusively female victims is completely false. Here is my original piece…..the Appendix is required reading, but not on a full stomach…..


The Global Summit to End Sexual Violence in Conflict took place in London on 10 – 13 June 2014. Then Foreign Secretary William Hague co-chaired the summit with Angelina Jolie, Special Envoy for the UN High Commissioner for Refugees. It was a huge affair with 150 fringe events in addition to the main Summit. It attracted representatives from 117 different nations. In her opening address, Angelina Jolie referred to war rape being the last taboo, and that this Summit would finally expose the issue to the light of day.

One would have to be a hateful person indeed not to agree that war rape is an appalling horror. But despite the enormous size of the Summit and its fringe events, I did wonder whether the last taboo would even be mentioned – at all? For the last taboo is not the war rape of women, but the war rape of men. Yes, men are the victims of war rape, too, and in huge numbers. It is not quite right to refer to rape as a weapon of war. The purpose of war rape is to humiliate the vanquished, an objective served as well by male victims as female.

Angelina Jolie insisted that, “all women and girls must be heard”. Indeed, but the suffering of men is equally real and abhorrent, and men have the added burden of having to bear the problem alone, unaided and unheard – including by her. In most African nations a male victim of rape is likely to be thrown in prison as a homosexual rather than given help. Failing that, it is likely that his wife and family will shun him as being no longer a real man. It would have been a good thing if this Summit were finally to explain to the public the pitiful plight of such men. Unfortunately the Summit was mostly another opportunity for the feminist lobby to reinforce the narrative of women’s universal monopoly of victimhood.

I will shortly discuss some dreadful instances of sexual violence against men in war. But first let us examine the nature of this Summit.

The declared agenda included the following,

  • To ensure sexual and gender based violence responses and the promotion of gender equality are fully integrated in all peace and security efforts. The summit will clearly situate this issue within the broader Women, Peace and Security agenda.
  • The summit organizers have established four goals: Ending the culture of impunity by agreeing on an international protocol for documenting and investigating sexual violence in conflict zones; taking practical steps to protect women, including by training soldiers and peacekeepers; increasing support for survivors and human rights activists; and achieving a “seismic shift” in attitudes so that the problem is recognized and tackled globally.
  • There will be three days of free events open to the public in the Summit Fringe, alongside the formal meetings. These will explore a broader range of issues related to sexual violence in conflict including conflict prevention, women’s rights and participation, men and boys, children affected by conflict, international justice and wider issues of violence against women and girls.

These extracts make clear that the issue is seen as gender based and a woman’s issue. There is no objective to protect men or boys: only women. Men and boys are mentioned in the third bullet, but in what context? In the context of women’s rights and violence against women and girls. Did men and boys enter the discussion only as the cause of the problem, not as victims? Largely, yes, with one honourable exception.

The complete schedule of fringe events can be found here. A brief perusal confirms that the events are overwhelmingly dominated by the female, even feminist, perspective. There are too many events to list, but the titles of a few will give you the general flavour,

  • “Girl Be Heard”: Theatre performance written and performed by girls aged 12-21, to raise awareness about discrimination and violence against women
  • “Hidden”: A play by Widows For Peace Through Democracy depicting the lives of women and child victims of wartime sexual abuse
  • “Even If We Loose Our Lives” The stories of three Afghan women.
  • “Katswe Sistahood”
  • International Center for Research on Women
  • One Woman’s Story
  • Diani Nammi, No Honour in Killing – Women on the Move Awards
  • Girl’s Decide: Layla’s Journey
  • Lilian Seenoi, Woman of the Year – Women on the Move Awards
  • Inspirational Women: Violeta Ross
  • “Girl Rising”
  • Womankind Worldwide in Sierra Leone
  • Tatiana Garavito, Young Woman of the Year – Women
  • “Breaking the Silence”: play for the Women’s International League
  • “I Am Here”: A reading of the searing story of one woman from the Congo, featuring Juliet Stevenson. (She could just as easily have picked the searing story of a man…but never mind, I will do that for her below).

…and on, and on. 150 events in all, mostly of like kind. And what is wrong with that? Nothing, of course…except the usual thing –  the story is one-sided. And half the truth is a whole lie. Only women feature as victims. Men, in general, are mentioned only as the perpetrators of violence, for example…

  • “Return to Manhood”: Hacking at the Root: Raising boys to become men of Conscience, Character and Courage.
  • “Care International”: Tackling root causes of violence against women: Engaging Men and Boys

So, you see, the message of the Summit is clear. It is the usual message: “men bad, women good; men violent, women victims”. The message is exactly that of Hilary Clinton, that women are the primary victims of war. But they are not: men are. And even when it is sexual violence that is the focus, it is still the case that men are the victims almost as frequently as women in many conflicts.

There was just one exception to the general rule of gynocentric focus and that came from contributions to the fringe programme by The Refugee Law Project, including running their 2008 film “Gender Against Men“. This is strongly recommended viewing. (see also this 2014 lecture and this more recent video). Amongst other things this film exposes how a traditional society renders men extremely vulnerable to loss of role. A man’s duty to provide for his family is taken away from him when he is shut up in a refugee camp. Even were he not so hampered, how can a poor African man compete with international aid organisations in providing for his family? Such organisations provide support directly to the women, partly because it is the women who care for the children but also because of their innate gender bias. This leaves the men with no role, no purpose. They become alcoholics or commit suicide – or join militias. And this, of course, merely proves to some how useless they are. The film also contains the clearest statement regarding the motive for war rape I have yet heard (I paraphrase slightly): “Rape is a weapon of war targeted at men using woman’s bodies. By raping their women, the men are shown to have failed at doing what they are supposed to do as men – to protect their women. Whether by raping their women, or raping the men themselves, the vanquished men are being taught that they are nothing, they are despicable, worthless, their identities are gone.”

The unwary might think that the events from MenCare might also provide a valid male perspective. Any hope that this might be so is dashed as soon as one looks at their web site. The video on their home page shows us that MenCare is actually a project of the “Clinton Global Initiative”. I presume this means Hilary. The video tells us without prevarication that the purpose of the project is to, “Engage men as fathers and caregivers, to engage men as allies in women’s health, children’s health, reducing violence against women, and to achieve gender equality“. So “MenCare” does not mean care for men. It means men caring for women. There is no concern here for men’s health or violence against men, only another call for men to ensure they are fully focussed on one thing: females. The affiliated organisations include The White Ribbon Campaign, an appallingly misandric man-shaming endeavour, and The UK Fatherhood Institute, another wing of the feminist machine as roundly condemned by Karen Woodall amongst others.

Never to miss an opportunity to consolidate his feminist credentials, William Hague’s closing speech to the Summit included this:-

Listening to the stories of suffering overcome and communities rebuilt through the effort, resilience and wisdom of women we have felt truly inspired this week. For the fact that we have never given this issue the prominence it deserves owes much to societal attitudes and failings: our failure never decisively to reject and condemn the denial or stifling of the full expression of women’s rights over a very long time. We have tolerated and still do tolerate violence and discrimination against women in many forms in all quarters of the world, and women still do not occupy their rightful place in the economics, in diplomacy and government of many nations. And I am saddened that women and women’s groups still have to ask to be included at the negotiating table, as if it were a concession to be granted, or a right to be begrudgingly accorded, when in fact it is the only route to better decisions and stronger and safer societies. We should not have to be reminded, as governments, that women must have a seat in every forum of decision-making, and it should not be the uphill struggle that it is to overturn the habits of centuries and establish new precedents and norms for full female participation.

I urge you to deconstruct what Hague is saying here. Allow me to assist. First he claims that war rape of women has never been given the prominence it deserves due to societal attitudes and failings. Well, maybe – but this would be a vastly more apposite remark if made of the war rape of men. Hague goes on to link war rape with women’s rights. This, of course, is precisely the source of my objection. War rape is being used by this Summit to promulgate a message in favour of feminism. But war rape is no more about women’s rights than men’s rights. In fact, as I quoted above from the “Gender Against Men” video, the purpose is primarily to humiliate the vanquished, and this is targeted at men, arguably even when the victim is a woman. Next Hague says that we tolerate violence against women. But violence against women is roundly condemned by all – even though we might be crap at doing anything about it. The violence that is tolerated is, without question, violence against men. This Summit is yet another proof of that. That’s why there is extreme focus on VAWG but none at all on VAMB, despite violence against men and boys being substantially more common. For God’s sake, people, are your brains actually switched on?

And finally, Hague departs entirely from the topic of sexual violence in war to expose as clearly as one could wish the true motivation for the Summit, that “women must have a seat in every forum of decision-making“. To reiterate for the millionth time, I am totally in favour of equal opportunities and equal respect. I have no difficulties with women appearing in whatever forum their abilities and efforts should warrant. But what is going on here is the promotion of the feminist political agenda using war rape as a lever.

The purpose of the Summit is this: “Emphasise women’s victimhood, ensure that men appear as the villains, hiding male victimisation as much as possible, and thus promote the view that men have power over women, and abuse it. This world-view is then used to spuriously justify increasing female power in unrelated contexts, if necessary by “positive action” – because men owe women, see?”

The shame of the London Summit is that it colludes with this false perspective. Nor can the feminist lobby have recourse to the usual claim that the only men being ignored are privileged white western men. On the contrary, the poor black men in question in the African conflicts are amongst the most under-privileged in the world. In some cases, boys from these countries are forced to become combatants at the age of 9 or 10, to face a life of brutalising horror – another male-specific form of abuse which the mainstream is content to ignore.

Of course there is appalling suffering by women in these war zones, and it is especially bad in certain African nations. But men, too, are raped in these war zones – and in huge numbers. And whereas raped women can tell their stories and perhaps receive help, men cannot even tell their stories for fear of being ostracized or imprisoned. This is gender based oppression.

What does it say about our society that William Hague, and all senior politicians, are complicit in hiding the suffering of half of the world – based on an accident of their birth, being male? What does it say about the power of the feminist lobby that senior politicians are obliged to bend the knee to it?

That the issue of war rape is presented to the public exclusively as violence against women is confirmed by a quick skim of newspaper reports relating to the Summit. I examine just a couple of such reports here and expose an alternative perspective. The suffering of the women is real, and unpardonable, of course. But the air-brushing away of men’s equivalent suffering is, nevertheless, unconscionable. Moreover – and this perhaps is the ultimate taboo – women are not always innocent in these matters. Whilst men are undoubtedly the principal perpetrators, in some conflicts women have played a significant role as the aggressors, including of sexual violence.

First example: Juliet Stevenson refers to the mass rapes of women in the Democratic Republic of Congo (DRC). Apparently she is unaware that men have been raped in that conflict to a comparable degree. In March 2014, the New Scientist ran a similar article on the rape of women in the DRC conflict. Rick Bradford wrote the following letter in reply,

I applaud the work of Jo Lusi in assisting women victims of war related rape in DRC. I wonder, though, whether he knows of male war-rape victims? These also lead to severe physical injury and death (I will spare you the unpleasant details). The work of Johnson et ala [Journal of the American Medical Association, (2010) 304(5), 553-562] has indicated that in addition to the appallingly high rates of sexual violence against women, 24% of men in Eastern DRC also reported they had been victims. The award winning report by Will Storrb (The Observer, 17 July 2011), drawing on the work of the Refugee Law Project in Uganda, has also revealed how male rape is endemic in many of the world’s conflicts. This is entirely consistent with the motivation for war-rape as stated in the New Scientist article, namely to inflict humiliation upon the vanquished. This applies as much to male victims as female. The plight of male victims is particular since they cannot seek help. In these cultures homosexuality is illegal, and male rape is interpreted as being homosexual. So a male victim daring to seek help is likely to be sent to prison instead. This is exactly what has happened to male victims fleeing DRC into neighbouring Uganda, which has particularly harsh anti-homosexuality laws. This is a very effective way of keeping the issue of male rapes hidden. It is therefore incumbent upon all of us to take what opportunities arise to expose this issue.

aThe abstract of this JAMA paper is: “Results of the 1005 households surveyed: 998 households participated, yielding a response rate of 98.9%. Rates of reported sexual violence were 39.7% among women and 23.6% among men. Women reported to have perpetrated conflict-related sexual violence in 41.1% of female cases and 10.0% of male cases. Sixty-seven percent of households reported incidents of conflict-related human rights abuses. Forty-one percent of the represented adult population met symptom criteria for MDD and 50.1% for PTSD.” In addition to being the source for the prevalence of rape of men in the DRC, this paper also reveals that women were the perpetrators of the violence in a substantial proportion of cases. This is not something you will have heared at the London Summit.

bWill Storr’s Observer article is so powerful that I have included it in full in the Appendix. It is strongly recommended reading. No one who reads this article can ever again be happy with the women-only perspective of the London Summit. It is not just in African conflicts that men are being raped, it is everywhere.

I also recommend very strongly the BBC documentary “An Unspeakable Act” which addresses the same issue.

The second example is Lindsey Hilsun writing in the Observer, 7/6/14. She refers only to the rape of women and the abuse of children in the Rwandan genocide conflict 20 years ago, . Yet that conflict has been referred to, not as genocide but as gendercide – and guess which gender was being killed? Nor were women innocent in those atrocities either, just as they were not in the DRC. The following account is taken from here,

The Rwanda Genocide – or Gendercide?

The genocide in Rwanda should properly be called “gendercide” since it was almost exclusively Tutsi men who were slaughtered. But it was not only men who perpetrated the atrocities. One of the most unusual aspects of the Rwanda genocide is the prominent role of women in the slaughter. The major study of this phenomenon was carried out by African Rights in 1995. Summarizing its findings, the organization reported:

A substantial number of women, and even girls, were involved in the slaughter in countless ways, inflicting extraordinary cruelty on other women, as well as children and men. Women of every social category took part in the killings. … The extent to which women were involved in the killings is unprecedented anywhere in the world. This is not accidental. The architects of the holocaust sought to implicate as much of the population as possible, including women and even children. … Some women killed with their own hands. … Women and girls in their teens joined the crowds that surrounded churches, hospitals and other places of refuge. Wielding machetes and nail-studded clubs, they excelled as “cheerleaders” of the genocide, ululating the killers into action. They entered churches, schools, football stadiums and hospitals to finish off the wounded, hacking women, children and even men to death. Some women have been accused of killing or betraying their own husbands and children. Above all, women and girls stripped the dead — and the barely living — stealing their jewellery, money and clothes. Other women told the killers where people were hiding, often screaming out their names as the terrified quarry ran for their lives. Some women, including a nun currently hiding in Belgium, provided the petrol with which people were burnt alive. … There is no evidence that women were more willing to give refuge to the hunted than men. Some mothers and grandmothers even refused to hide their own Tutsi children and grandchildren. Some women forced out people taken in by their husbands. Many nurses at the CHK Hospital in Kigali and at Butare’s University Hospital gave the militia and soldiers lists of patients, colleagues and refugees to be killed.

The culpability of these women has been obscured by some feminists’ attempts to depict women as the main victims of the mass slaughter. As Ronit Lentin notes, “Describing women and girls as the principal victims of the genocide … obscured their roles as aggressors … The involvement of women in the genocide and murder of Hutu political opponents failed to attract national and international attention, precisely because of the construction of women as the universal victims of that particular catastrophe.” (Lentin, “Introduction,” pp. 12-13.)”

Research by Lara Stemple at the University of California shows not only that male sexual violence is a component of wars all over the world, it also suggests that international aid organisations are failing male victims. Her study cites a review of 4,076 NGOs that have addressed wartime sexual violence. Only 3% of them mentioned the experience of men in their literature. “Typically,” Stemple says, “as a passing reference.” Just as with domestic violence, it is really all about money. The NGOs keep men’s victimisation suppressed because they don’t want their funding reduced. And who, if you dig deep, do you find at the back of it all? Hilary Clinton.

The truth about these conflicts is that both men and women suffer appallingly. Men account for the majority of deaths. As regards sexual violence both men and women are victims, and very commonly so for both genders. Men are the principal perpetrators, but women are by no means always innocent. Truth and compassion provide no basis for the London Summit’s gender-biased perspective. I can only hope that the time will come, and come soon, that issues such as these cease to be high-jacked by those with a misandric political agenda and instead are treated with equitable compassion.


The rape of men: the darkest secret of war

Will Storr, The Observer, 17 July 2011

Sexual violence is one of the most horrific weapons of war, an instrument of terror used against women. Yet huge numbers of men are also victims. In this harrowing report, Will Storr travels to Uganda to meet traumatised survivors, and reveals how male rape is endemic in many of the world’s conflicts.

Of all the secrets of war, there is one that is so well kept that it exists mostly as a rumour. It is usually denied by the perpetrator and his victim. Governments, aid agencies and human rights defenders at the UN barely acknowledge its possibility. Yet every now and then someone gathers the courage to tell of it. This is just what happened on an ordinary afternoon in the office of a kind and careful counsellor in Kampala, Uganda. For four years Eunice Owiny had been employed by Makerere University’s Refugee Law Project (RLP) to help displaced people from all over Africa work through their traumas. This particular case, though, was a puzzle. A female client was having marital difficulties. “My husband can’t have sex,” she complained. “He feels very bad about this. I’m sure there’s something he’s keeping from me.”

Owiny invited the husband in. For a while they got nowhere. Then Owiny asked the wife to leave. The man then murmured cryptically: “It happened to me.” Owiny frowned. He reached into his pocket and pulled out an old sanitary pad. “Mama Eunice,” he said. “I am in pain. I have to use this.”

Laying the pus-covered pad on the desk in front of him, he gave up his secret. During his escape from the civil war in neighbouring Congo, he had been separated from his wife and taken by rebels. His captors raped him, three times a day, every day for three years. And he wasn’t the only one. He watched as man after man was taken and raped. The wounds of one were so grievous that he died in the cell in front of him.

“That was hard for me to take,” Owiny tells me today. “There are certain things you just don’t believe can happen to a man, you get me? But I know now that sexual violence against men is a huge problem. Everybody has heard the women’s stories. But nobody has heard the men’s.”

It’s not just in East Africa that these stories remain unheard. One of the few academics to have looked into the issue in any detail is Lara Stemple, of the University of California’s Health and Human Rights Law Project. Her study “Male Rape and Human Rights” notes incidents of male sexual violence as a weapon of wartime or political aggression in countries such as Chile, Greece, Croatia, Iran, Kuwait, the former Soviet Union and the former Yugoslavia. Twenty-one per cent of Sri Lankan males who were seen at a London torture treatment centre reported sexual abuse while in detention. In El Salvador, 76% of male political prisoners surveyed in the 1980s described at least one incidence of sexual torture. A study of 6,000 concentration-camp inmates in Sarajevo found that 80% of men reported having been raped.

I’ve come to Kampala to hear the stories of the few brave men who have agreed to speak to me: a rare opportunity to find out about a controversial and deeply taboo issue. In Uganda, survivors are at risk of arrest by police, as they are likely to assume that they’re gay – a crime in this country and in 38 of the 53 African nations. They will probably be ostracised by friends, rejected by family and turned away by the UN and the myriad international NGOs that are equipped, trained and ready to help women. They are wounded, isolated and in danger. In the words of Owiny: “They are despised.”

But they are willing to talk, thanks largely to the RLP’s British director, Dr Chris Dolan. Dolan first heard of wartime sexual violence against men in the late 1990s while researching his PhD in northern Uganda, and he sensed that the problem might be dramatically underestimated. Keen to gain a fuller grasp of its depth and nature, he put up posters throughout Kampala in June 2009 announcing a “workshop” on the issue in a local school. On the day, 150 men arrived. In a burst of candour, one attendee admitted: “It’s happened to all of us here.” It soon became known among Uganda’s 200,000-strong refugee population that the RLP were helping men who had been raped during conflict. Slowly, more victims began to come forward.

I meet Jean Paul on the hot, dusty roof of the RLP’s HQ in Old Kampala. He wears a scarlet high-buttoned shirt and holds himself with his neck lowered, his eyes cast towards the ground, as if in apology for his impressive height. He has a prominent upper lip that shakes continually – a nervous condition that makes him appear as if he’s on the verge of tears.

Jean Paul was at university in Congo, studying electronic engineering, when his father – a wealthy businessman – was accused by the army of aiding the enemy and shot dead. Jean Paul fled in January 2009, only to be abducted by rebels. Along with six other men and six women he was marched to a forest in the Virunga National Park.

Later that day, the rebels and their prisoners met up with their cohorts who were camped out in the woods. Small camp fires could be seen here and there between the shadowy ranks of trees. While the women were sent off to prepare food and coffee, 12 armed fighters surrounded the men. From his place on the ground, Jean Paul looked up to see the commander leaning over them. In his 50s, he was bald, fat and in military uniform. He wore a red bandana around his neck and had strings of leaves tied around his elbows.

“You are all spies,” the commander said. “I will show you how we punish spies.” He pointed to Jean Paul. “Remove your clothes and take a position like a Muslim man.”

Jean Paul thought he was joking. He shook his head and said: “I cannot do these things.”

The commander called a rebel over. Jean Paul could see that he was only about nine years old. He was told, “Beat this man and remove this clothes.” The boy attacked him with his gun butt. Eventually, Jean Paul begged: “Okay, okay. I will take off my clothes.” Once naked, two rebels held him in a kneeling position with his head pushed towards the earth.

At this point, Jean Paul breaks off. The shaking in his lip more pronounced than ever, he lowers his head a little further and says: “I am sorry for the things I am going to say now.” The commander put his left hand on the back of his skull and used his right to beat him on the backside “like a horse”. Singing a witch doctor song, and with everybody watching, the commander then began. The moment he started, Jean Paul vomited.

Eleven rebels waited in a queue and raped Jean Paul in turn. When he was too exhausted to hold himself up, the next attacker would wrap his arm under Jean Paul’s hips and lift him by the stomach. He bled freely: “Many, many, many bleeding,” he says, “I could feel it like water.” Each of the male prisoners was raped 11 times that night and every night that followed.

On the ninth day, they were looking for firewood when Jean Paul spotted a huge tree with roots that formed a small grotto of shadows. Seizing his moment, he crawled in and watched, trembling, as the rebel guards searched for him. After five hours of watching their feet as they hunted for him, he listened as they came up with a plan: they would let off a round of gunfire and tell the commander that Jean Paul had been killed. Eventually he emerged, weak from his ordeal and his diet of only two bananas per day during his captivity. Dressed only in his underpants, he crawled through the undergrowth “slowly, slowly, slowly, slowly, like a snake” back into town.

Today, despite his hospital treatment, Jean Paul still bleeds when he walks. Like many victims, the wounds are such that he’s supposed to restrict his diet to soft foods such as bananas, which are expensive, and Jean Paul can only afford maize and millet. His brother keeps asking what’s wrong with him. “I don’t want to tell him,” says Jean Paul. “I fear he will say: ‘Now, my brother is not a man.'”

It is for this reason that both perpetrator and victim enter a conspiracy of silence and why male survivors often find, once their story is discovered, that they lose the support and comfort of those around them. In the patriarchal societies found in many developing countries, gender roles are strictly defined.

“In Africa no man is allowed to be vulnerable,” says RLP’s gender officer Salome Atim. “You have to be masculine, strong. You should never break down or cry. A man must be a leader and provide for the whole family. When he fails to reach that set standard, society perceives that there is something wrong.”

Often, she says, wives who discover their husbands have been raped decide to leave them. “They ask me: ‘So now how am I going to live with him? As what? Is this still a husband? Is it a wife?’ They ask, ‘If he can be raped, who is protecting me?’ There’s one family I have been working closely with in which the husband has been raped twice. When his wife discovered this, she went home, packed her belongings, picked up their child and left. Of course that brought down this man’s heart.”

Back at RLP I’m told about the other ways in which their clients have been made to suffer. Men aren’t simply raped, they are forced to penetrate holes in banana trees that run with acidic sap, to sit with their genitals over a fire, to drag rocks tied to their penis, to give oral sex to queues of soldiers, to be penetrated with screwdrivers and sticks. Atim has now seen so many male survivors that, frequently, she can spot them the moment they sit down. “They tend to lean forward and will often sit on one buttock,” she tells me. “When they cough, they grab their lower regions. At times, they will stand up and there’s blood on the chair. And they often have some kind of smell.”

Because there has been so little research into the rape of men during war, it’s not possible to say with any certainty why it happens or even how common it is – although a rare 2010 survey, published in the Journal of the American Medical Association, found that 22% of men and 30% of women in Eastern Congo reported conflict-related sexual violence. As for Atim, she says: “Our staff are overwhelmed by the cases we’ve got, but in terms of actual numbers? This is the tip of the iceberg.”

Later on I speak with Dr Angella Ntinda, who treats referrals from the RLP. She tells me: “Eight out of 10 patients from RLP will be talking about some sort of sexual abuse.”

“Eight out of 10 men?” I clarify.

“No. Men and women,” she says.

“What about men?”

“I think all the men.”

I am aghast.

“All of them?” I say.

“Yes,” she says. “All the men.”

The research by Lara Stemple at the University of California doesn’t only show that male sexual violence is a component of wars all over the world, it also suggests that international aid organisations are failing male victims. Her study cites a review of 4,076 NGOs that have addressed wartime sexual violence. Only 3% of them mentioned the experience of men in their literature. “Typically,” Stemple says, “as a passing reference.”

On my last night I arrive at the house of Chris Dolan. We’re high on a hill, watching the sun go down over the neighbourhoods of Salama Road and Luwafu, with Lake Victoria in the far distance. As the air turns from blue to mauve to black, a muddled galaxy of white, green and orange bulbs flickers on; a pointillist accident spilled over distant valleys and hills. A magnificent hubbub rises from it all. Babies screaming, children playing, cicadas, chickens, songbirds, cows, televisions and, floating above it all, the call to prayer at a distant mosque.

Stemple’s findings on the failure of aid agencies is no surprise to Dolan. “The organisations working on sexual and gender-based violence don’t talk about it,” he says. “It’s systematically silenced. If you’re very, very lucky they’ll give it a tangential mention at the end of a report. You might get five seconds of: ‘Oh and men can also be the victims of sexual violence.’ But there’s no data, no discussion.”

As part of an attempt to correct this, the RLP produced a documentary in 2010 called Gender Against Men. When it was screened, Dolan says that attempts were made to stop him. “Were these attempts by people in well-known, international aid agencies?” I ask.

“Yes,” he replies. “There’s a fear among them that this is a zero-sum game; that there’s a pre-defined cake and if you start talking about men, you’re going to somehow eat a chunk of this cake that’s taken them a long time to bake.” Dolan points to a November 2006 UN report that followed an international conference on sexual violence in this area of East Africa.

“I know for a fact that the people behind the report insisted the definition of rape be restricted to women,” he says, adding that one of the RLP’s donors, Dutch Oxfam, refused to provide any more funding unless he’d promise that 70% of his client base was female. He also recalls a man whose case was “particularly bad” and was referred to the UN’s refugee agency, the UNHCR. “They told him: ‘We have a programme for vulnerable women, but not men.'”

It reminds me of a scene described by Eunice Owiny: “There is a married couple,” she said. “The man has been raped, the woman has been raped. Disclosure is easy for the woman. She gets the medical treatment, she gets the attention, she’s supported by so many organisations. But the man is inside, dying.”

“In a nutshell, that’s exactly what happens,” Dolan agrees. “Part of the activism around women’s rights is: ‘Let’s prove that women are as good as men.’ But the other side is you should look at the fact that men can be weak and vulnerable.”

Margot Wallström, the UN special representative of the secretary-general for sexual violence in conflict, insists in a statement that the UNHCR extends its services to refugees of both genders. But she concedes that the “great stigma” men face suggests that the real number of survivors is higher than that reported. Wallström says the focus remains on women because they are “overwhelmingly” the victims. Nevertheless, she adds, “we do know of many cases of men and boys being raped.”

But when I contact Stemple by email, she describes a “constant drum beat that women are the rape victims” and a milieu in which men are treated as a “monolithic perpetrator class”.

“International human rights law leaves out men in nearly all instruments designed to address sexual violence,” she continues. “The UN Security Council Resolution 1325 in 2000 treats wartime sexual violence as something that only impacts on women and girls… Secretary of State Hillary Clinton recently announced $44m to implement this resolution. Because of its entirely exclusive focus on female victims, it seems unlikely that any of these new funds will reach the thousands of men and boys who suffer from this kind of abuse. Ignoring male rape not only neglects men, it also harms women by reinforcing a viewpoint that equates ‘female’ with ‘victim’, thus hampering our ability to see women as strong and empowered. In the same way, silence about male victims reinforces unhealthy expectations about men and their supposed invulnerability.”

Considering Dolan’s finding that “female rape is significantly underreported and male rape almost never”, I ask Stemple if, following her research, she believes it might be a hitherto unimagined part of all wars. “No one knows, but I do think it’s safe to say that it’s likely that it’s been a part of many wars throughout history and that taboo has played a part in the silence.”

As I leave Uganda, there’s a detail of a story that I can’t forget. Before receiving help from the RLP, one man went to see his local doctor. He told him he had been raped four times, that he was injured and depressed and his wife had threatened to leave him. The doctor gave him a Panadol.

Survivors’ names have been changed and identities hidden for their protection. The Refugee Law Project is a partner organisation of Christian Aid.